I feel like I haven’t updated about life so much lately, so here goes. In September, we celebrated Monkey’s first birthday! I can’t believe he’s over a year old already…my how the time has flown. It seems like just yesterday I was waiting to go into labor. It’s been such a wonderful year, I can’t imagine life without him. We opted not to go trick-or-treating for Halloween, even though we dressed the Monkey up (as a Monkey of course!) Next year, though, I’m sure we’ll be out on the streets. Speaking of – we only had 10 people come to our house this year. Sad, really.
I made a dairy and egg free cake for the big one-year party and it was a hit. Everyone loved it…even the Monkey man himself. We had a very low-key celebration with just immediate family and one of my friends and her daughter. It was perfect!
We’ve gotten the sleep situation to be so much better than it used to be. If you can remember from my older posts, Monkey has never been a good sleeper. He would be up every 2-3 hours to nurse every single night…for 11 months. Many times more often than that! Needlesstosay, I was exhausted. About a month ago, we decided to finally start doing some sleep training. I’m not one to question other’s parenting decisions, but ‘cry-it-out’ just never felt right to me, so we opted to skip that approach. I, instead, purchased the book The Sleep Lady’s Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Well and Wake Up Happy (after the advice from a friend) and it changed our lives. Like, complete 180. We didn’t follow the book 100%, but we used the suggestions and did what we felt was best. Basically, the husband took over all night wakings. This meant, of course, that I had to night wean. It only took three days for Monkey to get the picture and sleep through the night (and almost NO crying). He now sleeps from about 7:30 – 6:00 most nights, but sometimes wakes just once (rarely twice) – and the husband goes into his room and rubs his back as he falls back asleep. Some mornings he’s up at 5, and even though in the moment I’m frustrated because I want to keep sleeping, I just remind myself how a couple of months ago I was up 3, 4, even 5 times feeding. I’m starting to feel like a human again. So much so that it’s making me think about having baby number two…yikes! Not sure how I feel about that, just yet.
Now, let’s talk about feeding. Monkey has had a heightened gag reflex ever since he was born – whether it’s from being tongue and lip tied, or from his acid reflux, or from something else altogether, we’re not sure. I’ve been working with an occupational therapist to reduce this and it seems to be getting much better. He’s always been a picky eater as well – we’ve mostly practiced baby led weaning with him, but he’s never had a huge interest in solids. Up until a few weeks ago most food just went straight to the floor. And trust me, we’ve tried everything (sans dairy and eggs of course.) I’m excited to report that over the last couple of weeks, things have gotten SO much better. Monkey suddenly has an interest in foods, and while he’s not eating as much as a typical one year old, he’s eating! Three meals a day! This makes Momma so happy. He still gets most of his nutrients from breastmilk, though, and I’m okay with that. Oddly enough, this new interest in solids coincides with the start of some craniosacral therapy that we’ve been doing. Whether or not it’s related, I’m not 100% sure…but I’m leaning towards yes.
The pediatrcian was a bit concerned about his weight the last time I went in, which made me a bit nervous for a few days, but I’m not so worried anymore. I’m a small person, standing at only 5′ 1.5″ and I was small as a baby, too. Monkey’s getting milk from me at least four times a day, plus a bottle of donor breastmilk daily. In addition to his three meals of solid foods. The pediatrician made me feel bad at our last visit saying “He’s not getting everything he needs from your breastmilk.” Honestly, I KNOW that he needs my milk right now, more than anything else. I know in my heart that it’s what he needs. He’s also been just a tiny bit slower to develop in pretty much all areas than your typical child, and I’m totally cool with that. He sat up later, stood up later, crawled later, and is eating later (not to mention, he hasn’t started walking.) He’s not delayed, still well within the ‘normal’ window, just a bit behind most of his baby friends. Strangely, it doesn’t bother me that much. I am, however, little bit worried that since he’s over a year old, I’m going to start getting pressure to stop breastfeeding. FYI – I have no plans to wean any time soon. I have a very strong feeling that we’ll be breastfeeding until he’s at least two, and others will just have to deal. It’s the best nourishment for him, I know it in my Mommy gut…especially with his food issues. The pediatrician is also pushing cow’s milk on him. Even though he came up negative for a true dairy allergy, I know in my gut that he still has a dairy sensitivity, so I’m not going to push it. Instead, I’m making my own coconut milk and feeding that to him in addition to all the yummy breastmilk he’s getting.
It’s funny that when I say I’m going to write a post with an update about life, I really only talk about the Monkey. Well, he’s pretty much my life right now, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We’ve been meeting up with lots of local moms lately and it’s been great making some new friends. Other than that, I’ve been cooking a lot lately and I’m hoping to do some knitting here shortly. I’m also looking forward to seeing some snow this year, although I’m a bit nervous for the cold! I almost forgot, I recently spent about a million hours working on Monkey’s video compiling pictures and movies from the first year of his life. Check it out by following the link below if you want, but I don’t blame you if you choose not to watch…it’s long! This video is 22 minutes…the full version was 70!
Can you relate to anything I’ve gone through with Monkey? Do you have a child that develops just a tad slower than your friends’ kids? Do you have differing opinions from those of your pediatrician? What do you do about it?November 17, 2012
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